Hi! I’m Sandra…
I’m a professional certified life coach
who helps women find their happy…
It’s the year 2000 and I’m sitting in the tiny bedroom of an old Victorian-home-turned-counseling-office in southern California. The woman sitting across from me is in her mid-thirties. She has dark hair, dark eyes, and a kind demeanor.
“What do you do for fun?” she asks.
I stare at her blankly. I’m here to discuss the trauma and abuse of my childhood, not the frivolities of life.
“What?” I ask her.
“What do you do for fun?” she asks again. And then, as if to clarify, she adds, “What makes you happy?”
The second question was more confusing than the first.
I sat there considering what I might say to this woman, it occurred to me that I didn’t really know what made me happy. In fact, I’d be hard-pressed to describe happiness. It was a concept as foreign to me as snow in winter is to my hometown of Mesa, Arizona.
I left the office wondering what I was missing out on. There was so much anxiety in my childhood home that fun wasn’t really an option. I had dolls and toys and books that provided an escape from reality, but I never would have described them as fun. And as an adult–well, my adult life had yet to yield much in the way of fun.
Then there was happiness. What does that even mean?