Comments on: February 1st: Tolerance vs. Love http://missiontobehappy.com/2010/02/february-1st-tolerance-vs-love/ Michael McLean's Mission to be Happy Mon, 23 May 2011 14:07:09 -0700 hourly 1 By: Stephonie http://missiontobehappy.com/2010/02/february-1st-tolerance-vs-love/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Stephonie Wed, 03 Feb 2010 08:35:56 +0000 http://missiontobehappy.com/?p=134#comment-132 Thank you. This is very apropos in relation to a situation with a nephew. Thank you! Even though you might find it has some Mom TMI, you might find this post interesting. http://the-cat-room.blogspot.com/2010/02/mom-knowledge.html Again, thank you for your insights. Thank you. This is very apropos in relation to a situation with a nephew. Thank you!
Even though you might find it has some Mom TMI, you might find this post interesting.
http://the-cat-room.blogspot.com/2010/02/mom-knowledge.html

Again, thank you for your insights.

]]> By: Misty http://missiontobehappy.com/2010/02/february-1st-tolerance-vs-love/comment-page-1/#comment-130 Misty Tue, 02 Feb 2010 18:56:59 +0000 http://missiontobehappy.com/?p=134#comment-130 I have been married 6 years and I know what it's like to just be tolerated, and at times not even that. Coming from a loving family, the last 6 years have been difficult to deal with at times, depressing at best. Although I have a very happy marriage, my husband's family has caused many moments of despair and depression in my life, as well as his. They have used and abused emotionally, mentally, and, at times, physically. We have not had contact with these people for quite some time now, but the effects of their abuse remain. Some days it is worse than others. On the good days, I try to think of them they way I wish they would have thought of me. Even though we don't talk, I try to think of loving them the way I wish I would have been. I think of the consequences that they have to live up to and the things they have to give up in this life and possibly the next because of the choices they have made in their lives, and I feel sorry that they made those choices in the first place. It is hard to do some days. But I would rather love someone even through the pain they have inflicted than to just tolerate them, or less, the way they did to me. Somewhere in this there must be happiness that is waiting to be found, and I am trying hard to find it. It is an awful feeling knowing that you are not loved, but, in my opinion, it is even more awful to be the one doing the tolerating. I have been married 6 years and I know what it’s like to just be tolerated, and at times not even that. Coming from a loving family, the last 6 years have been difficult to deal with at times, depressing at best. Although I have a very happy marriage, my husband’s family has caused many moments of despair and depression in my life, as well as his. They have used and abused emotionally, mentally, and, at times, physically. We have not had contact with these people for quite some time now, but the effects of their abuse remain. Some days it is worse than others. On the good days, I try to think of them they way I wish they would have thought of me. Even though we don’t talk, I try to think of loving them the way I wish I would have been. I think of the consequences that they have to live up to and the things they have to give up in this life and possibly the next because of the choices they have made in their lives, and I feel sorry that they made those choices in the first place. It is hard to do some days. But I would rather love someone even through the pain they have inflicted than to just tolerate them, or less, the way they did to me. Somewhere in this there must be happiness that is waiting to be found, and I am trying hard to find it. It is an awful feeling knowing that you are not loved, but, in my opinion, it is even more awful to be the one doing the tolerating.

]]> By: Debbie http://missiontobehappy.com/2010/02/february-1st-tolerance-vs-love/comment-page-1/#comment-129 Debbie Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:51:35 +0000 http://missiontobehappy.com/?p=134#comment-129 I've spent a good portion of my life being "tolerated," I had to learn to love myself in order to overcome that road block. I still fall back into that cycle sometimes. HOWEVER, I have a greater compassion for others because of it. Sometimes I empathize too much. The principle you have written about today is one that everyone needs to learn. I hope everyone who reads this feels the spirit in which it was written. I’ve spent a good portion of my life being “tolerated,” I had to learn to love myself in order to overcome that road block. I still fall back into that cycle sometimes. HOWEVER, I have a greater compassion for others because of it. Sometimes I empathize too much. The principle you have written about today is one that everyone needs to learn. I hope everyone who reads this feels the spirit in which it was written.

]]> By: Lynda Kenyon http://missiontobehappy.com/2010/02/february-1st-tolerance-vs-love/comment-page-1/#comment-128 Lynda Kenyon Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:03:22 +0000 http://missiontobehappy.com/?p=134#comment-128 Talk about an Aah moment, can you imagine how much better the world will be if we can make that leap-to doing. To find a way to love more, instead of just tolerate. I can't explain what I'm feeling right now, but the best way is to say the spirit is whispering that there is great truth in this post. Even in the first grade I am finding little souls that think they are unloveable, who have never in their short lives have been told they are loveable and capable, who have never been hugged, or been given a high five. I finding loving children a very natural thing for me, I think that is my sphere of influence in this world. What more can I do to show love instead of tolerance in my walk today? A great thing to think about as I go through my day. Love it!!! Talk about an Aah moment, can you imagine how much better the world will be if we can make that leap-to doing. To find a way to love more, instead of just tolerate. I can’t explain what I’m feeling right now, but the best way is to say the spirit is whispering that there is great truth in this post. Even in the first grade I am finding little souls that think they are unloveable, who have never in their short lives have been told they are loveable and capable, who have never been hugged, or been given a high five. I finding loving children a very natural thing for me, I think that is my sphere of influence in this world. What more can I do to show love instead of tolerance in my walk today? A great thing to think about as I go through my day. Love it!!!

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